I had a client reach out to me and wanted to vent concerning a neighboring chiropractor that she had recently spoken to.
This man is living in scarcity. Instead of only serving people he truly loves to serve (and thereby doing an awesome job because he loves it) - he is focusing on grabbing all he can. Even people that he doesn't absolutely love serving. And when you have a scarcity mindset, this will happen to you.
She had told him that they would like to refer out some of their elderly clients to him since they were focusing on pediatrics and family care. However this doctor told her that while he was happy to accept their referrals, he would not be sending them kids and families to reciprocate and that he would be likely taking every new client that he could and just wanted to be up front.
Abundance on the other hand, you realize that there are lots of people to help and that you can do them and yourself a favor by serving only those that truly fit your focus. And it works, think of businesses that are weirdly specialized seem to always be busy even in a recession versus those that are trying to serve EVERYONE.
My lesson is this. What is your mindset? Are you on the abundance side or on the scarcity side? And did you learn this or put yourself there? And ultimately, is it working for you.
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It's so humbling and yet exciting to watch a baby grow and ulimately learn to walk. Crawling, sitting, and then standing up while they cruise along furniture. They get stronger and stronger and more and more confident and then almost by accident they take a step. And fall. And Fall
And fall and fall and fall. And hit their heads and their butt and get all sorts of marks on their body from crashing over and over.
And yet, they don't give up. They keep pushing. They never say, "maybe this isn't for me. Or, this is too hard. Or I give up."
They step and fall and then finally, they are free!
Where is it in your own life that you need to embrace having to fall a few dozen times before you get what you ultimately want.
Go get what you want.
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Honestly the (...) isn't supposed to be there, but I'm trying to catch your attention. Because really, it is okay for you just to NEED. Hear me, you have needs and it's okay to have them.
I don't know how we have adopted this culture where we like to put ourselves last, perhaps it's a parenting thing. Because we get so adept at anticipating the needs of our kids that end up putting ourselves last to provide for our kids. And then as we do this more and more, we find ourselves become a helicopter parent, or worse, a lawnmower parent.
Does this empower our kids? That's all you have to ask yourself, but I don't want to go on this tangent (I may have on the actual podcast btw).
So, dear listener, guard yourself and honor your needs. Fight for them and not only will you help yourself, but you will actually have more energy and life to give to others! (the whole fill your cup first thing right?)
Homework: ask for one thing. Anything - coffee, time alone, an errand, footrub. ask for one thing.
You Got This.
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My wife posted a video yesterday about her struggles with anxiety and panic attacks. It was not easy for her but she had found herself triggered by a video where two men were discussing post-partum depression and how women just needed "to get over it".
That ignited her and she blasted her video (which had 1000 views within 6 hours) and by this morning she already had 9 women private messaging her for help.
When you can share your fear or share your pain, you help others share theirs. Silence has a way of disempowering us and keeping our secrets actually make us fell out of control and in a prison of sorts.
When my wife shared her pain, it not only freed her but freed others and in a way, allowed her to divide her pain and share (and be shared like from others).
Who knows what will come from this ultimately, but I can tell you that no matter what you're struggling with. You are not alone and by sharing your pain, you will set yourself free.
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My town has a monthly tornado siren check every first Monday of the month and here I thought - if a town can make sure to run a check each and every month then I need to show people there is value in doing the same for themselves.
We already have a 30 day benchmark system in place with milestones really set up at 90 days, checking in to our targets (not goals, but targets) in our health, wealth, spirituality and family. While I'm not going to give away our whole sytem here are a few suggestions.
I recorded this on my front porch instead of in my office. With my phone, open air. It made my soul cringe at first and I was hesitant to even try and record.
Earlier today, I was trying to plan when I was actually going to record and figured I would have to wait until everyone was in bed. I want to put it off and who knows what excuse I would have by then. So, instead of taking a chance - let's roll!
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