Back in June, I never would have imagined running 13 miles. In fact, before this July, never in my life had I run more than a 5K (3.2 miles). Now, it's a light run for me! This being said. My kids actually ran their first obstacle race this past weekend, just two weeks after I went to Seattle and finished a Spartan Beast with my good friend John. I didn't know it then but by training and completing this race, I truly believed it has changed the trajectory for my family.
This will impact generations. In fact, when you think about this. The habits, traditions, and rules you have will impact your kids and then their kids directly. You're literally writing down the legacy your leaving as we speak. So, is this legacy being thoughtfully designed or left to fate/chance?
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If you have ever been in a plane, you know about the pre-flight talk. It's where the flight attendant, provides the mandated safety instructions. Most passengers just zone out during this time and ignore them (which as a business, if you have a part of your customer experience like this, you need to cut it out unless it's the law).
But there is a great lesson that happens during this time. It's the part where the attendant mentions that if there is a loss of cabin pressure, then masks will drop from above and if you're an parent, you are supposed to fix your mask and THEN help your child. You are to get your mask on first, then help your kid.
You can't fill another's cup (aka spouse, team, kids, etc), if your cup is not first filled. You need to fill your cup, guilt free and on a daily basis. I'm not talking about sedating with social media, your phone, alcohol, etc. I'm talking about PURPOSEFUL cup filling.
Doing something daily for your body, your spiritual being, your family, and your business.
I learned this from Wake up Warrior. Guys, check out www.warriorbook.com. Or if you want to coach with me, PM me.
Ladies, check out Women Wanting More.
That's your action steps. Ask me for help or at least go check out these resources to actually get yourself started.
I was setting goals and targets for 2018 and looking at all I wanted to accomplish and instead of just stating what I wanted to get done - I took it an extra step.
I made it a commitment instead of just showing interest.
Instead of just saying I was going to get healthier and lose weight, I paid and scheduled a Spartan Race Trifecta over the course of the year.
See the Difference?
A declaration is great and a really great start; but showing commitment by telling others, scheduling the event, or whatever it takes to "burn the ships" and get the work done.
How can you apply this to your marriage? Perhaps it's finding a sitter for every week and paying them whether you use them or not. Or committing with another couple to trade kids every other week for date night. It doesn't have to be expensive!
Check out this episode for ideas on balance and business as well.
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Til Next Time,
Dr. Nick
Quick Life-Hack straight from my practice here in Rural Ogallala Nebraska.
With free time being short, I like to drop a quick tip now and then and for parents, this is a BIG ONE.
Stop finishing your kids meals. Whether in your home or out to eat it's killing you.
1,440 calories on average per week just by picking at our children's plates or finishing what they left.
That's approx TWO POUNDS WORTH OF FOOD PER MONTH.
Stop it now.
Check out the podcast for the kids bucket list idea and also check out our facebook page where I am going to give you daily motivation and inspire you to do a little better every day.
That's the whole point. No more perfect parent BS. Our goal is to just be a little bit better than you were yesterday and if we can band together and support each other - we just might make it out alive!
Til next time!
Dr. Nick
My wife is learning how to teach yoga and her program is 3.5 hours away for many many days. That means dad here had to put on his big boy panties and actually do WORK. What I'm saying is that I'm not "watching the kids" or "helping my wife" - I FRIGGIN' HATE THOSE SAYINGS! Their YOUR kids, you don't WATCH them. It's YOUR house and family, you don't HELP your wife. Men, step the fuck up.
Check out Heather's facebook page "ENOUGH" and listen in on her interview about shame and guilt in parenting and our self-image.
Heather's passion of working with parents and their struggles is clear in her presentation. Make sure to check out her other project where she teaches "Circle of Security" on an ongoing basis.
I was playing CandyLand with my kids and I saw a lot of parallels with some of the clients I work with and my kids. Mainly in how they complain when losing.
"I'm terrible at this" - was a common complaints.
Now mind you, Candyland is completely random change - merely a spin for how you move your piece across the board, but we choose to still be so hard on ourselves.
What's the lesson here? Listen in to find out!
I've been on a break... of sorts. In the past 10 weeks I have lost 48 pounds, moved my family to a new home, and remodeled my office - so I let this podcast coast. For good reason.
The take-a-way from this statement is sometimes you need to step back a prioritize some "me" time. I had to finally take a stand and defeat the number one thing holding me back... my incongruency with health! Now, I can work even harder and faster.
What's holding you back? Are you burnt out? What could you change or upgrade if you gave yourself some focused time and energy?
As always, check us out at www.peptalksforparents.com for show notes and links!
We are so quick to beat ourselves up when things go wrong, but how about when things go well? Often we mini-cheer internally and move on like nothing happened, but it's important that we re-learn to celebrate. Relearn? Yes, like our kids do when they discover, win, or succeed. We cheer them on gladly and yet stay silent for ourselves.
So, pick your goals and write action steps and set some rewards that are equal to the effort.
Finally conquering a goal or task, make the payoff big!
As always, please check out www.peptalksforparents.com for show notes and insider information about what you can do to level up your life!
Hot mess moms and dad - you are not alone! My beautiful was at the fair and overheard a group of women making fun of another mom with a load of kids in tow. She posted a response on facebook and I am here to read that to you. You'll see why the community rallied and pulled a bunch of women together under #hotmessmomclub
The real point of this: let's support each other instead of trying to tear them down.
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Why do we no longer celebrate our little wins? Especially when it brings us so much joy. Think of your smaller children and how they are so proud of so little (well, in their minds it's massive). We lost sight of that.
As I dined in a dive bar, I noticed trophies and memorabilia on the walls and shelves and it reminded me to celebrate the little things. It is proposed that the reason that time seems to quicken as we age; it's because we have less "firsts" and less things to celebrate.
With everyday being a gift, your challenge is to start celebrating at least one achievement a day. Write it down.
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Not talking sexuality or physical attractiveness. But are you being attractive? We can isolate ourselves or even drive people away, but what does that serve? How are you CHOOSING to present yourself to clients, spouses/SO, kids, etc? Are you consciously choosing to be attractive to them. Putting out great energy and sincerity?
Time to step it up my friends. It will impact your life.
Love you all,
Dr. Nick
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You've heard this phrase, but I expand on what it means to truly listen and to also drop the sarcasm with your loved ones, friends, and business life. As Disney trains their employees on how to really answer questions like "What time is the three o'clock parade"?
By dumping the sarcasm and really answering, you build a stronger bridge in your relationships.
I challenge you to really try and listen. No more letting your mind wander, or worse, not listening because you are just waiting for them to pause to interject.
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My wife, Alisha, joins us again - this time excitedly so. We dive into the difference between setting intention and actually meditating. We dive into the benefits, how she finds the time, and if having a space for it is actually needed.
My wife has battled stress and anxiety for years and this is her number one suggestion for young parents to deal with the stress and daily grind of parenting.
Suggested smart phone apps:
- Headspace - www.headspace.com
- Buddhify - www.buddhify.com
Podcasts
- 10% happier: Meditation for Skeptics
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You can only help others feel great if you feel great. You can only help another to the level at which you are. Meaning, if you're stressed and/or depressed, you can only help another up to your level. Parents, this means your kids! As a health professional, my shame has been that physically I haven't been as healthy I should be. I need to role model. That's my challenge, but what is yours? So, commit to action of what will make you feel better. Commit to health. I'm not talking more medications or surgery, but true honest health.
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Guest Kathy Bourque (www.kathybourque.com) joins us to discuss the Imposter Complex and how its lies are taking the wind out of our sails. The Imposter Complex, those inner voices that lie to us and she says you can break free from your defeating self-talk. Listen in to see how she incorporates daily routine and a strong self-reflection on her core values and intentions to make every interaction full of purpose. Special gift for listeners, please go to www.kathybourque.com to download her 40 page workbook that is parent-tested, business friendly, and ready for you. Want more? Join Kathy in McCook, Nebraska in April at her Power and Peace seminar.
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My wife, Alisha, joins me today to discuss "Mom Guilt". In fact, she doesn't even want to be on this podcast for that very reason... because she feels like she does not deserve to share since she often feel inadequate as a parent. Mom Guilt (which is really dad or mom guilt) is that feeling like you never do enough, you're failing as a parent, or even the guilt with taking time for yourself.
Listen in today to get real and authentic as we tackle the demons within.
Who do you have that is going to tell you how things are? No sugar coating, no being easy on you, but is going to push you to new heights?
Why is it that the BEST in every profession has a coach (when they themselves could in fact coach), it's because they know they can always improve. It's not being weak to ask for help, it's a sign of strength!
Choose one of your top 5 goals and commit to finding a coach or accountability partner (not living in your house or your bestie) - that will commit to pushing you higher than you even known.
How can you CHOOSE your day? Is it possible to actually decide how good or how bad your day is going to be? We discuss today that by adding in a few moments of appreciation, that you can sway your day towards abundance. 1. Before your feet hit the floor, do two minutes of gratitude. 2. thank you cards - clients, family, friends --> imagine if you got a card, how would you feel? 3. Verbalize - Say it out loud!!!!
Time is a wastin' - are you sucked in to social media, waiting in line, stuck in traffice, dealing with the wrong type of clients, so called emergencies that could be handled by other members of your team, etc. The list goes on and on, and it's distracting us from what is really important. It's taking us away from opportunity. It's time for a mind detox and to get present with your loved ones and especially with yourself.
It doesn't matter who you are; disaster will strike. And do with without regards to age, race, or status. So what are you going to do. We discuss "torpedoes happen" because the bigger the ship, the more likely you're gonna have a torpedo hit. As Mike Tyson has been quoted, "Everyone has a plan until they get hit in the face". Kids and adults alike, we all have our challenges. Also, make sure to check out: www.peptalkforparents.com for more tip and helpful resources including our newsletter!
Religious or not - you were born to be the absolute best you can be. And your kids take that to another level. It's time for you to accept that truth and play bigger. You're gonna love your homework this week - its going to change your family forever!
Date night is not just for married people! Whether it's yourself, your kids, or perhaps a bestie, date night is a MUST to invest fully into a relationship. A couple of rules: make it a regular ritual. Get out of the house. Do NOT go over the top, keep it simple. Date night does not equal sex night. Get out of your routine! Check out www.peptalkforparents.com for our free newsletter.
We need to embrace the journey of the struggle. Watching our kids learn to walk should remind us of just what we are capable of doing. Do not be seduced by how easy things look, but embrace failing as a learning opportunity. Our kids need to see this from us, because they are living it as well. Let them fail, let them struggle, and yes help them and comfort them, but don't steal their success and struggle from them. Arm them for the future.
Welcome to the SuperParent Syndrome Podcast. Today we are discussing the types of Superparents, format of the upcoming shows and finally really diving in on "what's at stake" for us as working parents and the juggling of our lives, their lives, our health and careers. The implications of how we choose to live our lives will influence generations of our family.