Back in June, I never would have imagined running 13 miles. In fact, before this July, never in my life had I run more than a 5K (3.2 miles). Now, it's a light run for me! This being said. My kids actually ran their first obstacle race this past weekend, just two weeks after I went to Seattle and finished a Spartan Beast with my good friend John. I didn't know it then but by training and completing this race, I truly believed it has changed the trajectory for my family.
This will impact generations. In fact, when you think about this. The habits, traditions, and rules you have will impact your kids and then their kids directly. You're literally writing down the legacy your leaving as we speak. So, is this legacy being thoughtfully designed or left to fate/chance?
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There is facebook perfect and then there is real life. I've been doing my best to share the reality of our situation online because it's been showing parents that it's okay to share and talk about these frustrations. You are not alone dear parent - we totally get the WAR you step into every single day!
My wife and I discussed a range of topics from sleepless nights, to sore boobs, to post-partum and anxiety attacks. Dial in because this is going to get spicy!
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I have started (on the 15th) a 100 day challenge for myself. It ends just before Christmas because I am working as hard as I possible can and I am going to totally veg out for the holidays.
I can tell you this. Looking back over the past 90 days, I have done what I once thought was impossible. I bought our dream home. I ran over 10 miles (having never ran more than 3.2... ever ever); and I can see that the speed at which my results have come is because I finally embraced my ability to change.
The only difference between you and me is time, and not even that much time.
So, my clients are joining me on a 100 day battle. I have taken them through a process called the GPS. Because just like a REAL LIFE GPS (global position system) - you can set where you want to go, and if you know where you currently are... then a route can be created.
My system, the GPS, is just like that for you life. GOALS, PURPOSE, AND SYSTEMS. We find out where you currently are, where you want to go, and find the route you need.
It's not easy, it's not fun. It's hard and emotional. And yet, it's amazing.
You'll see in 100 days. Contact me directly if you want in my coaching system, otherwise listen in today's episode because I literally share with you how to do it all by yourself.
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I did a video for a group of coaching clients regarding their businesses and how it's their job to stay relevant in the daily discussion in their marketplace.
This is actually good advice for everyone but across your life. You need to actively work to stay relevant and an active voice in your children's lives, your spouses' life, your spiritual journey and even your body's health.
Across the board, corporations are selling, celebrities are talking, politicians are working, and money is talking to us nonstop. Billions are spent to persuade you into drinking the right colored can or driving the right car. And people are distracted and sedated. YOU have to fight to be on their mind.
Date your wife. Break her free from the kids, from her phone, etc.
Date your kids. Break them from their ipads, their friends, and their comfort zones. Those of you with teenagers already have the hardest job ahead of them.
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I have my faults. Every human does actually; but what defines us is what we can consistently do with our strengths.
I put this podcast as my lowest priority in the past few months because I was overwhelmed with a new baby, kids, preggo wife, post-partum wife, running a business, and training for a spartan race.
I'm sorry dear listener, but I fell victim to my own stories.
And then I realized that I don't have to be perfect to have this podcast or to offer help. The whole point of these episodes is to share frustrations, to share our "war stories" and see that we are in fact not alone and we can unite against our common enemy (the negative voice inside or even our kids).
Listen and enjoy, and share this podcast (please).
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I'm baaaack!!!!
We had a baby! And so much more has happened! We bought our first house, had a baby, and our son even had some strange unknown illness that plagued him for over a month and then just went away on it's own. And then this baby just won't sleep very well!
Listen in to hear an update!
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I was running and just could NOT make myself get into it! And then it occurred to me that this is a reflection of my life in that I just can't fall into motivation and therefore "beast mode" but have to consciously push myself out of the comfort zone. I have to create a plan. I have to ask for help sometimes, but if I'm just going thru the motions or doing what I always have done, then I'm just maintaining and not expanding!
It's true, you know it. Your kid will say something and you'll either cringe or your smile from what they did or said.
Whelp, you know you're REALLY in trouble now!
So, you can either let it slide or address it both internally (yes, first) AND externally.
You can either anchor their "learned behavior" or course correct it.
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SHIT will ALWAYS happen! You are not immune to disaster or stress happening. In fact, you're a stress magnet!
Sorry, but true.
So, now that you understand that you have already have a set level of stress and issues to handle; the question becomes... now what?
So, I'm the reason for all this chaos, so what can I do about this?
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The lesson today is simple. Kids are ALWAYS watching! And what do YOU want them to remember about you when they become parents.
What habits will they take with them?
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We're looking to buy a house and that requires a lot of paperwork. I used to handle my own day to day bookkeeping and now I have a new CPA and a new bookkeeper handling that aspect. I chose the right people, and they are good at it. But I still got anxious and worried about not being able to access my stuff and print off a report at a moment's notice. I have to instead check with my team.
Worry, and wondering if I need to take my books back.
Not that I don't have access or control, but I have to go thru my team to make sure I have what I need.
Fear but not rooted in truth.
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I ran today for the first time in 2 1/2 weeks. It hurt. My joints hurt, it was hard to breath and it felt like I had started back to square one.
My point is, you lose progress really quickly.
My second point is that it's easier to stay up than catch up.
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But really it applies across the board. As a spouse, parent, coworker, or business owner.
Because we're constantly selling, selling ourselves and our wants. I have to sell my kids on using manners, on going to bed. I have to sell my wife on sex or what to eat or what to do. I have to sell my team on a vision or idea.
The list goes on and on. But what you really need to identify is looking at what you're actually selling.
When you re-frame, you gain clarity for you and for your "client" and your impact will deepen and expand.
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I am currently reading Robert Kiyosaki's Cash-flow Quadrant and today a section really struck me right in my soul.
"...fear will often stop their body from doing what it must do. That is why so many "A" students get stuck in "analysis paralysis" studying every little detail but failing to do anything..."
He goes on to talk about how our system actually punishes students for making mistakes and thus why A students are just that, they make the fewest mistakes.
"The problem with that emotional psychosis is that, in the real world, people who take action are the ones who make the most mistakes and learn from them to win in the game of life."
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May is a time for Mother's Day and Graduation
Congratulations to all the moms and graduates out there.
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You know exactly what I'm talking about, because sometimes the world just beats on us and even for a moment (or days), we just feel beat down and done. It's where we might even know what we need to do to get back on track, but we can't even answer the question, "Why? and for what purpose".
Yep, I've been there. And often right when my alarm goes off. I have to literally remind myself why I am getting up and force myself to do so. I don't even feel powerful until much later.
But sometimes that feeling doesn't leave.
You don't hide it, you dive into it deeper.
Ugly cry, scream, curse, beat up your pillow, punch, yell at something. But purge purge purge til you're blue in the face. Get it out of your system as soon as possible with as much force as you can. You're forcing a detox. Like breathing out, you can force more and more air out and you need to get that evil energy out... NOW.
Otherwise, you keep it in and release it out on the innocent. Your family. Maybe even yourself and you speak evil to even yourself.
Instead purge, and purge hard.
Everyone: choose something little (like too long in the grocery line), something that made you made. And then take a moment to full on purge it. Over the top, like toddler with their blankie in the dryer type fit. Go all out. Then record how you feel after.
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At the kindergarten track and field day for my daughter Saffron. Which, by the way, she won first in the long jump and third in the sprint. But back to the story.
During the sprint, all of these little girls were running as hard as they could but then when they got close to the ticker tape for the finish line - they had no idea what to do! So they all slowed down as they reached the finish and clumsily piled through!
In life, where are you setting goals and targets and yet, instead of sprinting THROUGH them, you coast to the end. Meaning, you only reach to the actual goal versus driving through it to a whole new level?
Imagine how life would be if you just plowed right through from now on?
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Content done! Better than perfect, but listen up!
While I was first working with my coaches and mentors a year and a half ago, I could not answer, "What is it that I'm working towards" or "what do I want out of life?" Instead I could only truthfully answer that I knew my life wasn't working out so hot. I want to run away from that as fast as I could and so I would hustle and push hard and fast. And wasted a shit ton of energy!
"I had to image the legacy I built in 75 years. I probably won't be alive then, but I took time to ask myself, "what do people remember about me"?" -- Nick Fanning
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I have a guilty pleasure of watching people actually spend more time and energy trying to be lazy and take a short cut. Like a guy that won't get out of his seat to pick something up that he dropped and so he takes 3-5 minutes straining his foot to drag it to him. Or a kid that will throw an epic fit for minutes for something that would take a few seconds.
You know, we do that at all ages. We are addicted to easy. But we are also addicted to "busy".
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