Why You Should Listen:
It all starts with YOU! Meaning, if you want to make your life better and you think that the top priority is finances, or your marriage, or your kids... think again! You need to first work on your and THEN you will see improvement with the rest of your life.
A great marriage needs great ingredients.
Powerful finances require a powerful you - either as an employee/teammate or powerful entrepreneur.
So, let's talk about body!
There is NOTHING exciting or sexy about doing the work here. It's slow and steady. There will be very little BIG HUGE wins as we move from point A to point B. It's called the daily grind. And to course correct a HUGE tanker of a ship called your life, it's going to take consistency.
We love to glorify the "overnight" successes - the instant wins that we see all over social media. But we're comparing our normal lives to someone else's highlight year, so screw that!
Each day, 1%. That's it. And we're gonna win the game that way.
I would totally take a 1% win everyday rather than a 10% win once a month. or even twice a month.
So, remove the idea that this is your latest shiny object! But we are gonna be there for each other along the way.
I am just taking a moment to tel you how this next few months are going to work! I want you to feel organized and that you understand what I hope for you in your commitment to do the work and enjoy the results.
Every day: 10min or less
Each day will have a list of actions steps listed. Choose one.
Obviously the more work you do, the faster and better your results.
And..... go!
I messed up last episode's recording by using the wrong microphone is sounded all crappy. I should have taken a moment to double check things before I spilled my guts on the last podcast.
But then I had to let it all go. Because the message was downloaded. It was clear and I made my point.
While details mattered, I didn't want them to stall the message. So, done is better than perfect.
The Backstory:
Wife and kids left for Denver this weekend and I stayed to have a "beast mode" weekend to get some work done. Old me would have used this opportunity to yes get shit done, but also eat terrible food, look at porn, and binge watch movies and Netflix.
The temptation, of course, is always there but that's no longer me. I have to purposely make a plan and follow it. Meditation, meal plans, and workout. Use the downtime to also read or even record some extra podcasts.
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Are you freaking kidding me?!? A new episode each and every day? And an email too? You're out of your mind.
So what the hell am I thinking posting every single day?!? Am I crazy or something???
Well yes. Because the rest of you day minus the 10 minutes you listen to me is probably going to be filled with mediocre messages from marketing and sales giants and new outlets from around the world. Scaring you, impacting you, and causing you to collide and buy their crap. So yes, I'm going to give you 10minutes - just 10 minutes to help you improve your life by ONE PERCENT!!!
One percent times 365 days = you are 3.65X better next year.
Let's do this!!!
Are you making $12 per hour or are you trading one hour of your life for $12?
When you say it out loud there is all of a sudden a HUGE difference in perspective.
With a GPS or navigation system, you must know where you're headed (otherwise, what's the point), but we did the work to first find out where we are currently.
Basic info. You must know both A and B in order to go from A-->B.
Last episode we made a declaration of A.
Today, we discuss B.
I challenge you to consider what would life look like a year from now and what could be possible for you.
Not just make a declaration but what can you envision in your mind's eye. What can you FEEL and what can you visualize to the depth that you could actually TASTE it.
Once we can declare this, then we can reverse engineer this!
What is it going to take to make you take action?
What crisis or problem will need to happen to actually to wake you up from mediocrity or being comfortable in your pain?
You're in pain but you're comfortable in that pain because you know it. You know what to expect. But you are fearful of what is the unexpected pain could become.
Unless you want to wait for that disaster; how about we instead be proactive.
Let's talk about where we want to go. But to do so and find our way, we need to get REAL about where we are RIGHT now.
Listen in and I will be posting the next episode PART 2 in two days! Get to work!
If you have ever been in a plane, you know about the pre-flight talk. It's where the flight attendant, provides the mandated safety instructions. Most passengers just zone out during this time and ignore them (which as a business, if you have a part of your customer experience like this, you need to cut it out unless it's the law).
But there is a great lesson that happens during this time. It's the part where the attendant mentions that if there is a loss of cabin pressure, then masks will drop from above and if you're an parent, you are supposed to fix your mask and THEN help your child. You are to get your mask on first, then help your kid.
You can't fill another's cup (aka spouse, team, kids, etc), if your cup is not first filled. You need to fill your cup, guilt free and on a daily basis. I'm not talking about sedating with social media, your phone, alcohol, etc. I'm talking about PURPOSEFUL cup filling.
Doing something daily for your body, your spiritual being, your family, and your business.
I learned this from Wake up Warrior. Guys, check out www.warriorbook.com. Or if you want to coach with me, PM me.
Ladies, check out Women Wanting More.
That's your action steps. Ask me for help or at least go check out these resources to actually get yourself started.
Last week, I dropped my tips for meditation and how it has changed my life - allowing me to burn off stress and train my body and mind to handle even more stress. More specifically, we discussed Christianity and Meditation. Make sure you check out that episode if you have any religious hangups about meditation.
Basically it is a forced disconnect from distraction. It forces you into a state of meditation.
I use it for stress relief and when I'm done, I feel as if I had a nights' sleep...seriously.
So, a float tank is a closed tank where there is no light and no sound and because you're floating in salt water, you aren't touching any of the walls. You're like floating in space with just you and your thoughts. And ideally, not even them, because you're meditating.
I love pitch black tanks, but I have had tank experiences with lights, some that are open and not closed at all. I have had some that played music the whole time and some that only play when you're done. They all work, but you will start to have a preference.
There's your tutorial. My advice is to start easy and work into it. Start with a large tank and have the light be optional. Try and use that time to meditate but don't force yourself if you can't. Just enjoy the quiet.
Had a client in one of my coaching groups I assist with post about his hangup with meditating. He expressed concern that meditation was too heavily influenced by Eastern Religions for him to fully enjoy meditation without any religious guilt. As a Christian, he was holding back.
First of all, he has been with us for over 60 days. That should have been shared LONG AGO. He wasted two months of potential because he didn't ask. YOU might be needing to ask for help or clarification. Do it!
First of all: Check out "Christian Contemplation" by Thomas Keating.
In this book, he talks about the how the church has used meditation all along. Monks and Friars did it long ago. While yes they copied the Bible over and over, but much of their time was spent in silence and it was this silence where they were tapping into their Creator.
Think about how society has changed. The normal day for the normal human has drastically changed. A man, before the industrial revolution, likely worked in silence all day in the fields with some interaction between his family or only with his son that worked behind him. But with less distractions and less technology, man was able to tap into his Creator.
Meditation is the perfect stress relief. It also increases your ability to deal with stress the more you use it.
All over 'stress relief" exercises have recovery periods or a price to pay. Shopping, exercise (obsessive), overeating, porn, shopping, drugs, alcohol, social media...
Meditation is your key to reduce stress without paying any price but time.
What do I do?
Introducing: WORTHY
My newest project about fear and self-doubt where I interview the best in coaching, gurus, and experts in the field of mindset and conquering your greatest enemy - the voice within.
You are destined to be YOUR OWN coach. This is your time!
Check out the links below for more information:
Get in the right mindset and go someplace you can focus. If you're driving with the kids, skip the episode and come back.
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Last year at this time, what did you declare? How was your life supposed to improve?
So really, the question becomes: What got in your way? What did you learn?
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Now, I want you to visualize where and who you will be one year from now.
What will your life look like?
- Body?
- Spirituality?
- Bank Accounts
- Relationships
And then look at the road blocks from last year and I want you to visualize the road blocks you WILL have this year.
How are you going to overcome them?
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Love and Appreciation,
Dr. Nick